“For leaders, the first task in management has nothing to do with leading others; step one poses the challenge of knowing and managing oneself.” -Daniel Goleman
This proverb landed in my inbox like a profound gift today. It put lots of things into perspective. As I thought about what meaning I could take from a friend who’s in critical condition, I realized that we have no guarantees, that it’s our job every single day to be clear about what’s important, to […]
The Old-School Version of Tweeting In 1979, my fourth grade class was rocked by a major note-passing scandal. Back then, we wrote notes with the same frequency and flair that girls now text, tweet, Instagram, and SnapChat. The delivery system could be a problem, however, as notes could be intercepted by observant nuns. Sister Paula […]
Note: This is the third in a series of articles on stress and stress management. Go here for an overview of the stress response and here for the benefits and guide to deep breathing. When it comes to being stressed and proud of it, our culture is sick. It’s very, very sick. The other day, […]
When Friendships No Longer Fit A couple months ago, I polled people about the pain points in their lives. I expected to hear about dissatisfaction with time, work, and even romantic partners. I didn’t expect to hear so much about friends. I was struck by how many had outgrown their friendships, no longer shared anything […]
Aliveness in Every Moment Living the Tapas Way is about creating a life filled with meaningful people and experiences. It’s a promise to bring as much awakeness as possible to life’s big and small moments. I set a daily intention to do my best to abide by that promise and to actively embrace my life […]
The Beginning of My Gratitude Five I started a gratitude practice several years ago on the advice of a friend. To be honest, I thought it was a kind of a crock at the time. But I did it anyway – and was I ever wrong. It’s very simple. Every day, I identify five things […]