Everything Is Borrowed, Including Our Time Here

Everything Is Borrowed, Including Our Time Here

This proverb landed in my inbox like a profound gift today.   It put lots of things into perspective.  As I thought about what meaning I could take from a friend who’s in critical condition, I realized that we have no guarantees, that it’s our job every single day to be clear about what’s important, to […]

Mom Saw Need for Mindful Emailing Way Back in 1979

Mom Saw Need for Mindful Emailing Way Back in 1979

The Old-School Version of Tweeting In 1979, my fourth grade class was rocked by a major note-passing scandal. Back then, we wrote notes with the same frequency and flair that girls now text, tweet, Instagram, and SnapChat.  The delivery system could be a problem, however, as notes could be intercepted by observant nuns. Sister Paula […]

Stress Pride: Stop the Insanity

Stress Pride: Stop the Insanity

Note: This is the third in a series of articles on stress and stress management.  Go here for an overview of the stress response and here for the benefits and guide to deep breathing.  When it comes to being stressed and proud of it, our culture is sick.  It’s very, very sick. The other day, […]

Friendships: Should They Stay or Should They Go?

Friendships: Should They Stay or Should They Go?

When Friendships No Longer Fit A couple months ago, I polled people about the pain points in their lives.  I expected to hear about dissatisfaction with time, work, and even romantic partners. I didn’t expect to hear so much about friends. I was struck by how many had outgrown their friendships, no longer shared anything […]

What Do You Commit To?

What Do You Commit To?

Aliveness in Every Moment Living the Tapas Way is about creating a life filled with meaningful people and experiences. It’s a promise to bring as much awakeness as possible to life’s big and small moments. I set a daily intention to do my best to abide by that promise and to actively embrace my life […]

Attitude of Gratitude: Every Day Is Thanksgiving

Attitude of Gratitude: Every Day Is Thanksgiving

The Beginning of My Gratitude Five I started a gratitude practice several years ago on the advice of a friend.  To be honest, I thought it was a kind of a crock at the time.  But I did it anyway – and was I ever wrong. It’s very simple.  Every day, I identify five things […]